A Super Duper Happy Life is a way to orient, a compass to live by, a direction to keep focus, a way to steady and stay committed to the journey, the path of your own creation.
The idea behind leading a Super Duper Happy Life came from my son, B. Since B was 3 years old, he and I check in every night before bed and I always ask him some variation of two questions:
Is there anything I could do better?
What are you grateful for?
Since then, his answers are always the same:
Be super duper happy and You.
Cute, huh? Well, more than a cute little thing we do, this is a magical practice. For, you see, B has duchenne muscular dystrophy, a rare genetic degenerative disease that will limit his life. So being super duper happy is, at times, a tall order. Especially in the time right after we found out, the prospect of being super duper happy seemed impossible. But, with this small daily action, a shift occurred. A tiny drop of sweet intention trickled into the aquifer and now there is a deep source from which to draw.
This is an organic resource where I write, process and share from my own experience.
This is my blue print, my map.
The way in which I lead my own life.
My hope is that through your own daily actions, your own daily drops of sweet intention and consistency, you will be able to build the life of your dreams, your own Super Duper Happy Life.
Blessings on your Path.
This is my first step in creating a super duper happy life: consistent daily actions, the structure. For me, it is important to remain observant of reactions to this structure. I tend toward rebellion and disregard in the one extreme and strict austerity in the other. My middle ground is consistent but flexible and forgiving. I have a few tricks for navigating the extremes which include the idea that I am creating magic with my actions and my attitude. Taking three deep breaths before any action always benefits. Though I have it neatly organized here, I’m in the habit of writing this down and crossing it off as it is not completely automated (as of Oct 10, 2018). This structure has been years in the making.
Create themes and batch tasks.
Plan your week with your seasonal actions in mind (or in front of you - see seasons)
Review your week every Sunday for what needs adjusting.
Review. Refine. Automate. Delegate. Eliminate.
What went well? What didn’t go well?
What could be done differently, more efficiently?
What could be automated?
What could be delegated or eliminated all together?
What am I grateful for?
Where did I grow?
What could I release or forgive?
The Parking Lot
I learned of this idea from Ange Peters when I went through her Beautiful Life Lab in 2018-2019. The parking lot is where you put allll of your ideas. Do you have a lot of ideas? I have a lot of ideas ALOT. So much so that I can overwhelm myself with all the things that I want to do. What happens, then, is overwhelm. I see my huge list and like a large pile of laundry, I can turn around and walk away. The Parking Lot is a nice place to store all of my ideas and thoughts as they come into my consciousness. I take a regular look at the Parking Lot to determine what needs to stay there in that parking lot and what needs to keep moving into the next week. Personally, I have trouble letting go of my ideas and my tasks … somewhere in my brain I want to do it all. Psychologically, I see that I try to prove … '“see look at all the things” … I couldn’t possibility do more work!” Well, that’s bullshit. I can't do it all, but I can decide what I want to take action on now. The weekly review helps me mitigate my overwhelmed feelings and reminds me that I can take action on anything I choose. Its very empowering.
Then the Hard Work begins.
Mapping your week so that you are working towards the things that are most important to you. Personally, this is where I see my own resistance, fear and limiting beliefs. Here is a good place to note the importance of enlisting a good therapist, coach, or spiritual director - or all 3. We all have stuff that holds us back, that wants to keep us small and compliant with the current status quo. If you notice a block, a limiting belief (a lie), talk it out, change it up, get some perspective. Utilize your journal and then review it for patterns. Friends, we get a short amount of time to live our precious lives - don’t waste it on creating ruts for yourself. If you want to do something - do it. You may need help clearing the path.
Aligning with the cycle of the moon is an important part of the maintenance of my sanity and the regulation of my hormones. Knowing where I am in my cycle is helpful in teaching my family (of males) how to respect the consistently changing aspects of the feminine energy.
I clear my schedule on these days for reflection and dreaming. I usually do one energy clearing project like clean out a draw or organize a closet as well to keep the energy in my home and life flowing. For millennia, peoples have cultivated a relationship with the cycle of the moon. This a very personal and intimate part of my map; For me it is an essential and welcome part of creating a Super Duper Happy Life.
There are 4 seasons, 4 phases of the moon, 13 moons throughout the year. The moon cycles 3x per season. There are 3 New Moons + 3 Full Moons, each with a different energy within a Season, and there are 91 days in a Season.
for setting intentions
for releasing and celebrating
resources that keep me inspired and informed in this realm:
Spirit Daughter: sends new and full moon workbooks to subscribers complete with yoga + meditation + journaling practices + information on creating moon circles for your well-being and community.
Mystic Mamma: a beautiful resource for honoring the sacred consciousness of the feminine.
to lay foundation and work hard
commitment to move forward
to let go of that which no longer serves
adjust + evaluate to move forward
To set these days up for rest + recovery:
Calendar in the New and Full moons.
Keep it simple & spacious.
Take the time to set up up before with food (crockpots are genius for this day) + water, Oils + your journal + any stones, crystals, elements to support your connection to Mama Nature, the Creator, and any guides you connect with for spiritual practice.
The day before, of, and the day after are excellent days to consider eliminating sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and gluten from your diet and replacing with hydrating, restoring, and gentle foods and liquids. My friend Dr. Emily Wiggins liked to say that this is more a gesture than a austere cleanse.
*This day’s practice can be applied to the first day of your cycle. When aligned, this usually occurs on or near the New or Full Moon with optimal alignment occurring with the New Moon. This practice can also be considered while trying to conceive.
Green Cleaning: take a week and replace your cleaning products with natural alternatives. Rid your home of toxic chemicals. When I did this challenge myself, it felt so good. It is so much less expensive overall - less expensive for our budget and less expensive for our health and the health of our home + planet. It was so easy, I wondered why I thought I couldn’t make effective, amazing smelling toxic-free cleaning products before.
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Silicon ice cube tray
5 small sponges
8 glass spay bottles
4 small mason jars with lids
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